Many women and men, tell me they end up at the end of the day falling asleep on the couch exhausted, nothing left for their significant other or themselves. I tell them they could learn alot from my dog Cino. Cino, nickname “cheeky” demands massive amounts of attention, tummy rubs, nose scratches, and treats. If you could see Cino in the mornings whilst she demands her morning dose of attention, you might wish you were as good at demanding pleasure as she is. Not only does she start her day being adored, she makes it a priority, but in doing so she makes us feel better too!
Arielle Ford, internationally bestselling author and relationship expert recommends the following:
When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.
Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.
Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat), coloring and being creative….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.
Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.
It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about, or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.
Some of the ways I add personal pleasure daily include indulging my little dog as I get as much pleasure from giving her attention as I think she does! Going for coffee on my own and reading, a good piece of dark chocolate, doing a yoga or barre class and having a bath with essential oils and epsom salts.
Make personal time a part of your daily todo list, block it out, even if it just involves spending 10min in the garden just sitting with a cup of fancy tea or indulging in a power nap, you owe it to yourself and to those around you. The more oxytocin the happier you are the happier those around you are too.
Wishing you a little more pleasure and joy in your daily life